I see it a different way. Parents reach a period in life where their kids strike out on their own and want little to do with them beyond a safety net. That’s normal and natural and the parents move onto a new phase too. In fact they might just not be that into you anymore. It’s ok if visits upset their routine and holidays are somewhat irritating. Same for being not overly enthusiastic about taking on care giving roles for grandkids. They’re still individuals and it’s not like old age causes someone to lose their inner world. They’ve seen a lot and not as much is novel likely. They’re facing loss, mortality and decline. If they feel compelled to scroll let em scroll. I’m so glad assistive technologies and a11y will be there when I’m decrepit so I can have something more stimulating than TV. Maybe ask grandma to play some Lethal Enforcers the next time you visit you’d be surprised — mine did.

Fortunately, I could never get used to the small screens of mobile phones as a serious computing or web browsing device. So my use of my mobile phone is limited to basic tasks like making calls, sending messages, and sometimes, reluctantly typing emails when I don't have a laptop handy.

My primary computing and web browsing device remains my laptop, with Emacs and Firefox being my main tools. One thing that does manage to distract me sometimes is YouTube recommendations. As a result I have written a little userscript for myself to disable shorts and recommendations: https://github.com/susam/userscripts/blob/main/js/ytx.user.j...

So far the userscript has been successful. As a side effect of disabling the recommendations sidebar, the video panel expands to occupy a larger part of the screen which I quite like. Here is a screenshot: https://susam.github.io/blob/img/userscripts/ytx.png

Also, I still depend heavily on physical textbooks, a rollerball pen and a stack of plain A4 paper for most of my learning and exploration activities. This routine has helped me to stay away from modern attention media too.

• nicbou

  today at 6:12 PM

  Try Unhook (desktop) and Untrap (iOS). At this point, my YouTube experience is just the channels I subscribe to, and the video player. It reduced my usage to almost zero.

  I'm not exactly curing cancer, but my media consumption is more moderate and mindful now.

  • nomel

    today at 6:41 PM

    Same thing can be achieved (mostly) by disabling youtube watch and search history. It causes the home page to be blank, and all recommendations under any video are usually from your subscriptions, related your subscriptions, or directly related to the video.

    • politelemon

      today at 6:52 PM

      This is the simplest and most effective solution, Cheers

  • l72

    today at 7:40 PM

    Just add channels you like to your rss feed. It works great with freshrss.

    Or if you want to get fancy use tubearchivist with the Jellyfin plug-in.

• pcblues

  today at 7:24 PM

  Writing with a pen has a lot of unseen benefits.

  Fine-motor skills connected to memory, etc.

  Doesn't take much to find the science.

  Also, avoiding interruption is good for your train of thought.

  If a train of thought doesn't matter, then stay online and leave your phone able to interrupt you.

  It's your "choice" (tm)

  Seriously, try everything including the things you don't think will work for your sense of peace, so you know, IOWA (I over-worry always)

  Peace to you all.

• asib

  today at 7:18 PM

  If you press t key you will get a full width video player.

• serial_dev

  today at 6:20 PM

  Screenshot not found.

Over 3 years ago I was in the hospital - they put me on shared room with other men of various ages. The oldest ones liked to talk for hours, doing all sorts "memberberries", elaborated expertises on current state of European, world affairs. Because what the hell else you can do when you have vertigo or tampons in your nose and you need to lie down.

Anyway, the oldest over 80-something man was given some older Samsung phone by his great-grandson with instruction to launch tiktok whenever he feels bored. And bloody hell, that thing looped so much content with every launch but this man still tried hard to find something remotely interesting. I wouldn't say he was glued but that's a random guy who liked to attend his orchard and bees, going fishing etc. - he had something to do in the real world.

I'm witnessing more elderly people around me actually struggling using touch-capable devices - it's like they're smacking fingers in frustration that there's no tactile sensation. They were told that there are buttons to press/tap but there's no feedback they'd expect. For them smartphone screen is no different than tv.

My parents generation are the most screen addicted people I know. Absolute slaves to Facebook’s algorithm. It’s really disheartening to see.

• atomicnumber3

  today at 7:48 PM

  It's weird. I was born with the internet being largely a business or academic tool, with normal people barely having a reason to have an email address.

  When I was in high school, flip phones could let you text friends, as long as you didn't mind your parents later using your soul to pay the phone bill.

  When I was in college, the most addictive thing the internet could offer was foul bachelor frogs and rage comics.

  Along the way, I learned how dangerous even those unrefined sugars were. It was like chewing coca leaves or sugarcane. Enough t get you a buzz, but not enough to ruin your life. So I know not to touch the algorithmic fentanyl feeds of TikTok and the like.

  But good god, nobody younger or older had any protection from this. My parents and spouses parents, and my zoomer cousins both basically got handed giant bags of refined gigasugar without even the vaguest warnings. I'll refrain from likening it to opiates against because they are on a whole different level, but good god it does seem more dangerous than even refined sugar.

• Aurornis

  today at 6:57 PM

  It’s definitely not limited to Facebook. About half of the 50-70 year olds in my family and my wife’s family are screen addicted without Facebook. They live on questionable news websites, messenger apps, Nextdoor, and some others.

  It’s strange to hear a 60-something rant about how evil Facebook is and then go on to regurgitate countless conspiracy theories they picked up from whatever websites they’re reading this month.

  The parents who scroll Instagram and Facebook feel downright tame in comparison.

  • pndy

    today at 7:43 PM

    For about 2-3 years now youtube itself is flooded with countless channels producing generated content. Whoever are the people behind this they know what they're doing and what kind of stuff will give them views and attention from vulnerable audience.

    There's fueling political and social rage with "news", casting doubts on family relations with "true life stories" (daughter-in-law threw me out of my house), religious "coaching" (dead since end of 60s Padre Pio gives you life lessons and "secret" prophecies), worthless tips and tricks (don't eat this nut if you're 50yo woman or your hair will fell off), lewd promotion with twist on history (sexual violence in every thumbnail) or tourism (women in country of x are "ready" all the time). So on and so on.

    So I'd say it's not that much strange if you look closely what kind of the content older people can walk onto. And this is just youtube.

• blakblakarak

  today at 6:35 PM

  My Dad’s got early stage dementia and Facebook is an absolute nightmare. The apps infested with AI slop and the algorithm seems to fill his feed with stuff designed to get him worked up (currently badly behaved cyclists even though he no longer drives).

  • gzread

    today at 6:40 PM

    Mine got Israeli propaganda and kept texting me so often about Hamas and Muslims that I had to block him.

    • talon8635

      today at 7:05 PM

      Mine got Iranian propaganda and kept texting me so often about IDF and Jews that I had to block him.

      • KoftaBob

        today at 7:41 PM

        Iran's a sideshow compared to Tel Aviv's Hasbara spin factory.

This feels similar to how you'll see rows and rows of elderly people mindlessly pushing the slot machine buttons in casinos. It makes me wonder if impulse control starts breaking down for that crowd.

Of course, I also wonder if non-digital natives also just have less of a thick skin for this sort of thing.

The article in question:

https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/2025/12/do-your-paren...

• today at 7:25 PM

My aunt is 80 and thank goodness she has an iPhone. She’s bedridden and spends all day on it. She has no children but I lived with her for a while when I moved out of my parent’s, and we text often.

• colechristensen

  today at 6:35 PM

  The concern is what you're doing when you're getting older but still able.

  The decline is accelerated by muscle weakness which is accelerated by sitting around all day looking at screens.

Before smartphones they sat at home and watched game shows and TV evangelists, and listened to Rush on the radio. Which is worse?

• Nux

  today at 7:51 PM

  Smartphones.

I really wish iPhone/Android had better parental controls so I could monitor my dad's screen time and the type of content he was allowed to see on YouTube.

• Cpoll

  today at 6:23 PM

  The recontextualisation of "parental" is very amusing.

  • tromp

    today at 6:43 PM

    As nicely illustrated in this Young Sheldon episode fragment: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Nd90rFPYVnc

Social media is a cancer and more people need to realize this. No amount of platforming will fix this. It’s designed to extract behavioral traits about you. It’s designed to spy on your shopping and browsing habits. It’s designed to build a model of you. Everyone fell right in.

Before smartphones and TikTok it was casino TV at 3AM, TV infomercial shopping, and the like.

I was reading up on some RCTs on social media and mental health recently and one of the surprising findings is that social media is actually worse for older people.

• krackers

  today at 6:21 PM

  That makes sense, they haven't "built immunity".

• tietjens

  today at 6:42 PM

  Can you share some things you were reading?

"But is this shift actually worth worrying about? Or are younger people just projecting their own anxieties about screen time onto their parents and grandparents?"

False dichotomies can either be the worst thing that happened to humankind or a pathway to a new way of understanding each other.

Time to sign off HN, I guess :-)

On a serious note YT shorts are on my radar for "things I spend too much time on that deliver minimal value."

• hsuduebc2

  today at 7:17 PM

  In my opinion it's best from short content feed out there but it's still useless. Too much AI slop in there. Needles to say I did get some interesting creators in there but I believe people I'm searching for are using YouTube as long videos platform and do not properly use the short term format.

I must admit. My parents we're right the whole time. Staring at the screen for a whole day is truly unhealthy and they should go to play outside instead.

This whole thing is beyond ironic.

Reminds me of Chade and The Skill from the Robin Hobb books

Old people are wonderful relays from paid trolls and propaganda to their peers, unwittingly spreading and amplifying lies and political agenda in social media. They're often retired, having entire days at their disposal, wasting them on forwarding sh*t back and forth.

Amazing opportunity! One more demographic to save via age verification laws, with a side dish of reliable personalized advertisement profiles.

Wait till you see the grandparents glued to the TV.

Maybe a solution is to spend more time with grandparents, so that they have something more than just technology to keep them company.

• AngryData

  today at 6:15 PM

  As the old saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.

  • eYrKEC2

    today at 6:24 PM

    In our household, the worst offenders of phones at the dinner tables are the grandparents.

    It's as gross as 2 knuckles deep in your nose.

• gedy

  today at 6:16 PM

  Sure, but I've seen since the 70s old folks just staring at TV all day, so it's not just a mobile phenomenon either.

  • HerbManic

    today at 6:52 PM

    Very true, phone addiction is that taken to a new level but the same underlaying issues remain.

• analog8374

  today at 6:01 PM

  I know a lot of old bored retired people.

  They need something physical and social. Like softball or something. But compatible with their decripitude.

  I hook them up with each other. There are parties.

  Still working on the softball part.

  Ideas are welcome

  • rationalist

    today at 6:07 PM

    > I hook them up with each other. There are parties.

    OnlyGrandparents.com?

    (I looked it up, the domain name was registered six days ago!)

    • alwa

      today at 7:21 PM

      If anybody wants to do something with instagran.org, I know somebody who would be willing to part with it for a good cause…

    • rrr_oh_man

      today at 6:14 PM

      OnlyGrans.com is available for only $50k

      • Wistar

        today at 6:21 PM

        That’s worth about $5

• foobarchu

  today at 6:13 PM

  Doesn't always help. My mother (of grandparent age but coincidentally had 5 kids who didn't want to procreate) stares at her phone 95% of the time when I visit. I'll be telling a story and she's on Facebook, doesn't even look up. She's even been called out in it by my sibling who lives with them, to no avail.

  Luckily she doesn't fall for right wing propaganda all over the Internet, but she sure does fall for every single piece of Trump rage bait out there.

• p2detar

  today at 5:58 PM

  Yes, but no. From personal experience, even around grandchildren, TikTok/FB have precedence. It’s getting sickening and we need to educate our parents about the harm that "the algorithm" causes. I just ask myself whether we are even in the position to do so.

  edit: typo

• joe_mamba

  today at 6:01 PM

  I'd love to. The issue is grandparents are in a town with no jobs ruled by a corrupt government that only steals and embezzles money and provides no benefits to local taxpayers.

  There's a reason youth migrate away to live with roommates in overpriced big metro areas. That's where all the white collar jobs are created for college educated people. And everyone in the last 20+ years has been groomed to go to college and take white collar jobs, plus deindustrialization and offshoring of manufacturing jobs meaning there's not much in-between well paying white collar jobs and dead-end neo-slavery food delivery jobs. Maybe I'll be a plumber one day and move back to my grandparent place if Claude takes my job, who knows.

• toomuchtodo

  today at 6:10 PM

  If someone would like to and is willing to make the time, that’s fine, but you don’t owe them this if they are not a good person or worth spending time with imho. Connection and community is earned, not a given. My lived experience is there are some good old people you strive to make time with, some who are fine but I wouldn’t go out of my way to make time for, and some who are just terrible people who are going to die alone because of who they are. Your life experience and decisioning process about how and with whom to spend precious, non renewable time may differ.

  Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

  • serial_dev

    today at 6:22 PM

    It’s all fine, but in that case also do not worry about this hypothetical old person spending time the way they like to.

    • toomuchtodo

      today at 6:46 PM

      Certainly, how they spend their time is their choice, concepts of free will and all that.

• chronic20001

  today at 5:56 PM

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  • behringer

    today at 6:01 PM

    I said, "I'd like to see you if you don't mind"\

    He said, "I'd love to, Dad, if I can find the time\

    You see my new job's a hassle and the kids have the flu\

    But it's sure nice talking to you, Dad\

    It's been sure nice talking to you"\

    And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me\

    He'd grown up just like me\

    My boy was just like me

Seniors are the most vulnerable people on the internet, the most likely to be fooled by disinformation, the most likely to vote, and are one of the biggest threats to civil society. Boomers are destroying what previous generations have built.

• allendoerfer

  today at 6:38 PM

  Here in Germany they also ignored the demographics, so our social insurance systems (retirement but also health) are heading towards a catastrophe, because there is no capital backing them. They are fundamentally relying on the next generation being bigger or at least equal. This has turned them essentially into Ponzi schemes. The taxpayer has to jump in, making the state less and less able to do anything at all. Of course they now collectively avoid responsibility and slowly milk the young - their own children - dry.

  It is truly the most egoistic generation ever.

  • heraldgeezer

    today at 7:27 PM

    You are describing every pension system in the world.

• rrr_oh_man

  today at 6:14 PM

  > the most likely to vote

  Well... who's fault is that.

  • HNisCIS

    today at 6:16 PM

    It's because election day is a weekday and the rest of us have to keep up with the grind. It's entirely because they don't have jobs

    • SoftTalker

      today at 7:06 PM

      It's been this way for 100+ years (probably much longer) and people found a way to vote. It's easier than ever in most places today, with early voting, mail-in voting, whatever other options are available.

      • dabinat

        today at 7:52 PM

        In some states it’s easier now; in some it’s much harder.

        https://www.brennancenter.org/our-work/analysis-opinion/chao...

    • ViktorRay

      today at 6:18 PM

      Early voting exists in many states. Even in these states you’ll find that younger folks hardly vote.

• k2enemy

  today at 6:37 PM

  And also the most likely to fall victims to scams. An elderly family friend lost millions to a pig butchering scam.

Taking grandmas unpaid care work for granted - no longer possible. Outrage!

• gammalost

  today at 6:53 PM

  More: If you want to spend time with your grandkid please do not just sit besides him, phone in hand. If you do not want to then that's fine