Sadly, the divorce rate is over 50% for parents of spina bifida children. My daughter is almost 7 and my wife and I are happy, we have a good life and Iām fortunate to have a career that lets her stay at home to tend to our daughters multiple monthly doctors appointments, and one where I can largely work from home to help when she needs carrying (which is often!)
That said, our daughter is a miracle, sheās intellectually sharp, and we do everything we can to give her all the experiences any other bright and outgoing child would have. I hold her up so she can play the games she canāt reach at Dave and Busters, even if my arms get tired. We go on hikes with an expensive stroller thatās also a bike made for off road biking because we read Little House and she wanted to know what prairie looked like. We plan on getting an RV to take her to national parks.
Her wheelchair tennis coach recently tried an exoskeleton that allows him to walk at a research lab in New York, she was elated. She asks me when her robot legs are coming. I tell her we donāt know but robots in every house would certainly help that sort of technology move forward. I tell her ātheyāve got to test it on adults before kids can get one!ā
When she was one, they told us to make plans for the future, to get our affairs in order. Three years later the palliative care worker who had told us our child wouldnāt live past her second birthday came to visit us during a hospital visit and talk to us, so happy to see a case where theyād all been wrong. Iām so happy they were.